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Laurie Cole

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Front Porch Friday: A Boy Mama Question for ALL Mamas

School’s out and the kids are home for the summer, so I’m re-running a very popular post from last summer’s Ask Laurie series.  Discover the #1 thing I learned as the mother of three sons, and the #1 thing I wish I’d done differently. And trust me, this will apply to you girl mamas and grandmamas, too. So c’mon! Join me on the porch for Front Porch Friday: The Boy Mama, Girl Mama, Grandmama, kids-are-home-for-the-ENTIRE-summer edition!

Praying for ALL of you mamas,



What’s the #1 thing you’ve learned as a mom? 

Click here to watch other videos in the “Ask Laurie” series!

 

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  1. Laurie,

    I just loved your front porch Friday, felt like I was right there on your front porch with you:). Your southern accent is so nuturing to me. I too am a boymamma ( of 2 grown sons, 28 and 20 ) and my mother who has passed away and her family are from Mississippi. What a blessing just to hear your encouraging words of advice in your southern accent :). You are right on with your advice to all boy mammas.

    God bless you and look forward to hearing from you on next Friday’s “porch Friday”.

    Tudi
    San Diego, CA

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    • My mother, grandmother, and all of their relatives are from Mississippi, too! How fun to hear from another Boy mama with Mississippi roots. Thanks for sitting on the porch with me, Tudi!

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  2. this is fantastic, laurie! i have a baby boy right now, but the time will come where your experience and wisdom will be invaluable. thank you for being willing to share your victories and struggles! keep ’em coming!

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  3. Thank you so much for this. Your message was very encouraging to me. I too am a boy mama. My son is two and I can definitely relate to the energy and keeping him busy. When he is idle, watch out! Thanks again!

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    • The up side of energetic boys: their mamas and daddies burn lots of calories trying to keep up with them. 🙂 Enjoy that boy, Kedre! Love!

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  4. Fun! thanks for answering my questions, Laurie!! My older son watched your video with me and said “Yep, I agree, Mom. I like talking with you best!” We have afternoon coffee together most afternoons. It is a sweet time of listening to his heart and practicing the psalm we are memorizing together (Ps 19). Thanks for the encouragement and the words of wisdom!!

    PS. can’t wait to hear that great CD series, too! 🙂
    hugs,
    Mariel

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    • Just picturing you and your son having coffee together makes me weepy happy, Mariel. I dearly loved your questions, and as you can see many others did, too. Praying the CD set will bless you big time. Hug your precious boys for me. Love!

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  5. Thank you for the reminder to LISTEN. Our boys are 18 and almost 20, and our daughter is 17. I guarantee that, when I interrupt them when they come in to talk, I just missed a special blessing. I have to hold my tongue and allow them to “speak all their thoughts before trying to counsel or encourage them” and keep my comments to a minimum.

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    • You’re a wise mom, girlfriend. And your children are so blessed to have a mom who listens. I’m so grateful to have you hanging out on the porch with me! Blessings to you, Laurie!

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  6. Hi Girlfriend! Loved the talk on the “Front Porch” today! I’m ready to see you write a bible study for mom’s with boys…..seriously….it would be excellent! You have a wealth of experience to draw from. You are an inspiration and encouragement to women all over the country. Love ya dear sister. Wanda

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    • Love you, too, Wanda. Would sure love to catch up with you by phone one day and hear the latest about what the Lord is doing in Missouri. When you have a chance, call me. Until then, know of my love and ongoing prayers and thanksgiving to God for you, precious friend and sister.

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  7. Laurie! Loved your Boy Mama dialogue. Like you, I raised three boys, all grown, married and two are daddies themselves. When I look back, one of the most important things I did along with their dad, was to pray for their future wives. There were some impostors along the way, but the three young women they selected are the true daughters of my heart – and I recognized them when they showed up! I am writing a book about Mother-in-Law/Daughter-in-Law relationships, because they are typically so negative. But as believers, it should not be so. We have lots info on our site and a survey that perhaps some of your readers would like to participate in. They can find it at http://www.debdearmond.com Keep up the great work, I love your site!

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    • I love your site, too, Deb! And thanks for inviting all of us glo girls to visit and check out the survey. I’m thrilled to hear about your book! Please let me know when it’s ready. Blessings to you my fellow 3-son, Boy Mama, sister in Christ!

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  8. You were right on with all you said..our boys are 40 and 38 now (husbands and fathers). The thing I knew to be true and shared with others was that I needed to be ready to listen when they were ready to talk (as you said also)…and oh yes…the time usually came when I was busy and thought I had no time 🙂 But the blessing came when I made myself available.

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    • Amen, Janet! So good to hear from you. Hope you, your husband, and your sons who are fathers had a glorious Father’s Day. Love to you!

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  9. Can you comment on how to deal with a husband who is disabled and unemployed? I am not naturally the most compassionate person and have a lot of hurt and bitterness to deal with from the last 22 years, but I am committed and I know that it will be “not by my strength or might, but by His Spirit” that I will have the victory He has promised me! There is so much changing that has to be done on behalf of both spouses ( and our children, to a lesser degree), but again, God’s grace is sufficient and His timing is perfect.

    Thank you for any wisdom you can share with me in regards to this special challenge (although I believe that there are a lot of women in my situation with either a husband who is unemployed, disabled or both, and therefore, your answer will probably be a blessing to many…)

    May God continue to use you as a vessel of light and encouragement in many more women’s lives!
    Laura

    (I prefer to remain anonymous, if it’s all the same to you… 🙂

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    • Thanks for sharing your heart and your question, Laura. I will add it to those I have already received, and will pray about possibly answering it on a future Front Porch Friday. Until then, be sure to watch next Friday’s video. I’ll be answering another kind of “husband” question, but I think it may also encourage you. Know of my prayers for you and husband. Love!

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  10. Keep them busy and make them work! I like that! I grew up with 6 older brothers and I am the youngest and only girl. My parents didn’t allow us to play outside so we were never kept busy. It was strictly school and home for all of us! Will keep that in mind for my nephews. =D

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    • 6 older brothers!!!! And you’re the only girl!!! Jackey, no wonder you’re so good with kids. Always such a blessing hearing from you, sweet friend. Love you!

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  11. Thank you for your encouragement and inspiration, I have three boys myself, twins 10 and a 5 y.o. and would like to glean more from your experiences.

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  12. Laurie,
    Thank you! I get girls, but my youngest is a 14 year old boy, and you just helped and encouraged me and affirmed what I was doing with my dear son. love you girl, keep on glowing cuz we’re right behind you. love and prayers. And any more boy tips will be greatly appreciated.

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  13. Laurie, I too have two Christian Sons, ages 30 and 25. I love your advice you give to all the Mom’s out there. I would like to add something that helped my relationship with my son’s grow in the area of the “Why questions”. When I was a child I would ask my parents if I could have something or do something, and like most parents the answer was “NO”. But, “Why”?, I would ask, and my parents response was, “Because I said so”. I did not then and still do not today like that answer. So I decide when my sons would ask me that question,”Why?”, I would sit down with them and give my reason behind my decision. Not the answer,”Because I said so.” If my parents had done this with me I really don’t think I wouldn’t have rebelled like I did. I give GOD all the credit, glory and praises for watching over me as a child and that my Son’s have never given me any problems growing up. They both have thanked me over the years for just talking with them in my reasons behind the “Why questions”. Thanks for listening and I pray this will help other parents in this area..

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