Laurie's #3 Post: Top 5 Tips for Young Marrieds

Over the holidays we are running Laurie’s Top 5 posts of 2012 — the posts glo girls, like you, have viewed the most — and today is #3. How we pray that it will bless and encourage you!

Two of you asked the very same question in our Ask Laurie: Q&A and Giveaway: What’s your best advice to young couples and those just starting out?

While I certainly can’t outdo God’s Top 4 for husbands and wives (see below), today I’ll share my Top 5 (+ 1) Tips for Young (and not-so-young) Marrieds. See you on the porch!

Married 34 years and still madly in love with my man,

What’s YOUR best advice to young marrieds? Let me hear from some of you old (and not-so-old) married women — our precious young marrieds need all the encouragement they can get. Bless you!

God’s Top 4 Commands to Husbands & Wives:

Husbands love your wives (Eph. 5:25).
Husbands honor your wives and live with them in an understanding way (1 Peter 3:8).
Wives respect your husbands (Eph. 5:33).
Wives submit to your husbands (Eph. 5:22).

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Comments

Debra Davis says

January 1, 2013 at 2:47 am

Laurie, It’s so great to see you posting on such a critical subject. Boy, do I ever remember as a young newly wed I had such stars in my eyes, but as year 10 came on I was so frustrated, fixated as you said on the things my sweetheart wouldn’t change to my nagging, whining and not so sweet words. Then one day as I was griping to the Lord about my loves TW’s on the floor next to the laundry basket or wherever, I heard a women’s Bible study on the radio from a widow and she so graciously said with sadness in her voice, “ladies, I’d give anything to have those socks and things on the floor now, because that would mean the man I love is still here to hold, to touch, to smell, to kiss”. Please, don’t waste any time, just say a prayer as you pick things up, and thank God for that privilege every time you see those socks. It broke my heart and changed me forever. I hear her voice each time I am tempted to complain, and choose instead to think about the wonderful things I love, and thank the Lord for giving me my best friend and husband of 32 years. Early on my Bible teacher told us to write 25 things we loved about our husband when we were dating, and add to the list often, On a difficult day, pull it out and thank the Lord for these things, it will change your attitude! I just Thank the Lord for those older women who were willing to share their wisdom with me so I could grow in grace. Blessings on all of you starting out on your wonderful adventure of marriage.
ps. Another thing that really helped me was Gen 2 where God said he made Adam a helpmeet just for him. I had to learn to be my husband’s completer not compete with my man, and that just changed everything. We can be so selfish in the beginning, but God’s grace is sufficient even for that. My husband told me a story when I was really struggling with the submission thing that changed my thinking and brought things into the right perspective for me :). He said, his Dad was Airboss or Exec Officer on the aircraft carrier, and Dad’s best friend was the Commander. One was the CO, the other the XO, They were both the same rank, but in the end the CO had to make the final decisions, and carried the weight of the authority, and it was critical they worked together. If they argued it was in their stateroom, and then they presented a united front with Dad ‘submitting’ to his friend the CO to carry out his orders for the smooth sailing of the aircraft carrier in front of all the troops. It all made sense to me as I realized it had nothing to do with worth, or value but function and authority. Learning to think rightly made a huge difference in our marriage. Hope this helps. The Lord is faithful and patient with us as we run our race; as we two become one. Ask for His help, He will be there for you. He promised! And, He always keeps His promises.

Laurie Cole

Author, Speaker, Teacher

God’s Top 4 Commands to Husbands & Wives:

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